Peer-to-Peer Support

When students face difficult situations, support from peers can help them address their needs and access resources. Students may experience different levels of distress: emotional, academic, or social. Every person may require a different kind of support.

Care, Check, and Connect is a simple guide to help you recognize when a peer may be in distress, respond with care and understanding, and connect them to resources. You don’t need to be an expert; just showing up, checking in, and helping them take the next step can make a real difference.

Care

Caring enough to take notice of your peers can make a difference.

  • Pay attention. If someone isn’t acting like themselves, don’t ignore it. A simple “Are you okay?” can help.
  • Give your full attention. Listen without distractions and make eye contact.
  • Acknowledge their feelings with empathy.
  • Avoid judgment or advice; just be supportive and present.

Check

Look for signs of mental health struggles or suicidal thoughts and notice any warning signs in your peers. Trust your instincts if something feels wrong. Engage with compassion and concern. Be calm and direct; ask them if they are considering suicide. Offer emotional support and reassure them that help is available.

Warning signs can include:

  • changes in behavior, mood, or appearance
  • talk of self-harm, death, hopelessness, or feeling trapped
  • giving away belongings
  • withdrawal from family and friends

Connect

Direct peers to the help they might need. Encourage them to talk to a mental health professional or use Penn State mental health resources. If you are with them, offer to accompany them if they are scared or unsure; if you are not together, you can stay on the phone or video with them while they reach out for help.

Resources